John and George

From the day you enter this reality you spend your life meeting people and negotiating the complicated dance of human relationships. Initially your world is comprised of family. For some it is a very safe and nurturing place. The family is the jumping off spot for one to test the waters of life.

While growing up there are many people who become friends who will come and go in your life. The moments in time that you share are special. The memories, no matter how brief, are gifts that you get to keep forever.

Then there are those special people who are constants in your life. You may see them in brief interludes but they are there year after year. They are always around. Although they may reside in the periphery the knowledge that they are there is reassuring. The fact that they can always be called upon for a friendly conversation, camaraderie and moral support the fact that they are there makes you stronger. These special people combined with family and close friends act like support pillars that constitutes your base.

Time has a habit of changing things. The constants, the pillars in ones life start to disappear. Your base becomes smaller. With each loss you must shoulder more of the weight. Perhaps it is best stated by Trent Reznor, "What have I become my sweetest friend ever one I know goes away in the end". I now must become an "adult", be a father, be responsible. It is a challenge, I won't lie. I look in the mirror and I see I young kid who loves baseball, video games, music and wrestling. In my hart I feel young and at times immature. But with each friend that is lost I feel that I no longer have a right to feel that way. I now have young eyes looking at me expecting support; I now must be their pillar. It is an instant role reversal.

It is my hope that my children will grow up in a family were they feel loved and supported. It is my hope that they will experience the comfort of knowing that just up the street are a couple of good friends a John and a George two pillars in there base.


(When you read this post read it as if it is narrated by Daniel Stern the narrator voice of Kevin Arnold from the Wonder Years or by Morgan Freeman because he always sounds cool)